Trapped in the Family Net

Several of you have come in for healings lately because you are struggling with your family’s opinions of your path.   For example, you might be excited about the idea of starting your own business beyond the family business or you might want to move yourself and kids to another country for an opportunity that you just can’t pass up.  But you can hear your siblings and parents in your head, talking about you, saying things like: “What is she doing?” “What is she thinking?” And “You’ve got to be kidding me!”  In the name of saving you from yourself, they might sit you down and warn you of how impractical your idea is.

On my healing table, what this looks like energetically is a black grid surrounding your body.  It’s like you’re a bird with your wings woven into a net, keeping you down so that no matter how hard you try, you can’t lift off of the ground.  This entanglement takes me most of the session to remove, because it is woven through and through your entire energy field. You can help dismantle the constricting pattern around you.

If you want to break free from the family dynamic that is still forcing you into its role, you have to dissolve the net by taking the power out of their words.   You have to form a new belief which will make new patterns around you so that you don’t feed energy into those old defining circuits, causing them to become more embedded into your system.  What your loved ones are saying out loud is not necessarily what their souls are really saying.  For example, have you ever been to a high school reunion and had someone come up to you and say, “I had such a crush on you back then. “ And, you stood there in shock because that’s the same guy who ruined your self-esteem by making some joke in front of everyone about your body?  And, when you brought that to his attention, he didn’t even remember saying it?  Look at it like this: His crush on you came from a heart level and his cruel words came from a surface social level.  In other words, if you take people’s opinions of you less seriously, as if they don’t really mean it deep inside, you begin loosening the hold the net has on you.

The family grids sound something like this: “They will be disappointed in my choice.” “Maybe they are right; my idea is crazy.”  What you can do, instead of struggling with these voices is you can imagine yourself ten years down the road on your perceived radical path and imagine that your family sees your success and is eager to join you.  Imagine that you can now offer some of your siblings work in you new thriving business.  Imagine that in ten years you can invite one of your siblings to the country you moved to if they ever want to get away.  By letting yourself dream like this, you help me in the weaving of a whole new dynamic grid around your body because you are then feeding energy into the new circuits with your thoughts.  By imagining that your family is talking among themselves and saying, “Wow. She really did it”, you energetically let the old constricting patterns dissolve and simply step out of it and in to your future, untethered.